What did I do! That’s on you lady and not his lack of belief in God. I'm now in college and I have a full time job so I can't take care of him anymore. I feel better knowing I’m not alone and that it will get better. But where did I go wrong! I know people who can't afford their kids due to no fault of their own AND have maxed on credit cards. Sincerely, B. Elaine Jones, Esq. Search Learn how your comment data is processed. My 10 year old is defiant, stubborn and angry. ((((hugs))))). Two more weeks till school and not surw if Im.going to make it! Op, what exactly is it that you are in need of? So obviously I want to quit. I appreciate the advice. Plus, by turning it off, we are all forced to use our imaginations. I don’t and I’m not and it’s a real drag. Lori is correct, there are online groups for all needs, just google to find one. We have hit the wall. I don’t want my child anymore — can child welfare come and get them? I can relate to you. I did not want kids or marriage until I hit 33. I just found out we won’t have insurance after this month so things are hard with my meds still let alone without them so I am already worrying about something that for one hasn’t even happened yet and for two something I have absolutely no control over. What is it that you can't afford for you child? Especially with my kids. By now, she is far too big for it. Btw: any suggestions on how to stop my son from cussing so much wld be greatly appreciated.. and any ideas on how to make all 5 of my kids less assholish plz plz plz help ya girl out…. My four year old is completely insane and very mean. thats it in a nutshell!! its got to happen. oP has options even if they aren't great. So if you want them to self-play, teach them how to. Like freaking superhuman. Got in fight with a another student ( he is not physical and never before got in trouble for that) , was called in the office several times ! I do everything u mentioned except the story circle, my children will not be content lol…. (((hugs)) We can do it! Days when you scream until your voice cracks. We are all here for you too! I have been suicidal every moment of the day and night for 10 months. Single motherhood is tough, I know… but it does get easier as they age! I am sure they can bring loads of fun, but they can bring loads of crap and unhappiness too. Emotional Nudity: I Can’t Stand My Child – When Being a Mom Has NO Joy Posted on August 2, 2014 - By Rich I know children are supposed to be … And the comments range from the moderate to extreme, but I don’t judge a single one! Parenting is H A R D! I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. The parenting, the constant lack of time for yourself…. 1. There are many people who do have kids and then don’t like it once it happens. I’m an Atheist and I took care of my parents since I was in 6th grade. Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore, Re:Can’t afford to take care of my child anymore. You are NOT alone, ever, as most moms are at their wits end! Well I will say after reading some of these comments I feel like a jerk. Kids rally with each other to form a united front and the tug of war of debate and consequence begins. We’ve all done it. im sorry sheldon, but you vcannot change the person i have become since you were away, as much as youd like to turn back time, it just cant be that way any longer. I understand taking care of a parent that does his/her share (even if that share is very, very small), but to care for someone that truly doesn't care anymore is exhausting. very well put. I can’t take it. What do you do when the parenting gets tough. I don’t want to play with them, I did not think that I had to, my mom never did, I played with my sisters. Even though I’m educated and have a degree. Much love and HUGS!!! ... Not my child! If I am going to work and sacrifice time with my child, its not going to … Google and reach out to the location closest to you. Death is the only way out at this point. Find a release and strength in a spiritual life, too, Weary Wife. But anxiety isn't the type of issue that can be cured overnight. My best friend, however, never wanted kids and is 45 and has never regretted her decision. Related posts . None of which have actually happened, of course, and they know that. My parents gave me all sorts of speeches about growing old with no one to care for me. Parenting a defiant child is hard. I can’t take it anymore quarentine SUCKS. And we all can’t be June Cleaver all the time. i know i am going to be judged, but i cant function anymore. I remember the moderator (Jeff?) (((HUGS))). I have a 3 year old red eared slider. I think I’d rather die than live to see how fucked up my kids going to be from having me for a mother. I know all of my friends have. So even though you just vacuumed the living room for the 3rd time that morning and you see your 3 year old heading to the table with the Rice Krispies and you know with all of your heart that even if you give her a bowl, she will dump that box on your carpet, but you just don’t have the gumption to stop the new mess, then take your phone, walk outside and hit speed dial 5. I am so, so sorry that you are so overwhelmed. I wish I was stronger. I just want to hide away because they always want and take so much from me. Lacking confidence in your ability is normal, I certainly feel inadequate at times. And for me, it gives me time to do something in motherhood that gets lost in the work, the chores, the bills and life… I get to look at my beautiful angels loving time with me. Related content: You Are Not to Blame for Your Child’s Behavior. i feel emotionally and intellectually paralysed to the point where i cant be a good mum to my other children. I’m tired. I had one of those today where I hit the wall with my 2 boys. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. Until I read it all. I’m sorry you are struggling. I can't do it anymore I have an 8 year old and a 3 year old, I am 24 years old and I just can't cope anymore. I literally spent my evenings, weekends, and summer breaks painting apartments and cleaning houses to pay our household bills and for their medications. Good tips, but I’m beyond some of them. Let's not posit this argument about the future's child well-being whether he'll be in a good school, receiving a good education and being well fed. You are NOT ALONE!! I read about other parents who don’t want to parent anymore and then I don’t feel so bad or alone. Then I’m ready to put on my “big girl pants” on. My child is in timeout and I am in tears. So make sure to check your policy if you are struggling to pay for your dog’s care. After work you’re supposed to look forward to relaxing, not when ur a mom. Yes, it is a L O T of work to get three kids ready to go on a 5 minutes walk up the street. But once I get out and I walk and they ride bikes or we all walk or one walks and the other three complain, it’s OK! If the care and worry of your parent has started to take its toll on your and your family's life, it's okay to seek help. My parents never had to help me with my homework, but my son needs a lot of help. Back to home page. he was taken from me by my parents at age 7 and was raised by then, now since he has returned at 18 he thinks he knows what best fo me and my now decent family. There are four kids total and they make me long for a heart attack just so I wont have to get through another day. I'm also moving to an apartment and the won't allow ANY pets. of being an effective parent. It got to me and I felt bad for being short with my oldest, but I have to give myself a break and start again fresh tomorrow. If I wasn’t a responsible person with a husband who is not completely well, I’d get on the next flight to Mexico and never come back. I feel so alone and isolated. Oh wow Suzy! It is part of it all. I believe that it is not fair to have children when you can not support them. Your child will be properly cared for while you take the steps to better your personal circumstances. thank you! People like you, ‘holier than thou’, are what’s wrong with this country. Thanks…that’s great! My sister has power of attorney and refuses to even look into a group home for her. 5. I finished primary school a few says ago (P7) and am moving to big school soon. If your children are over 16, you should try and work out arrangements yourselves. The calls are endless: I can’t keep my cat because my husband is allergic. This really did a number on me mentally since I had to watch my mom deteriorate each day until she passed away. I really wish I didn’t exist, I’m buried and tired, Oh man girls..so glad I found this I’m so isolated and I’m desperate to have some sort of forum to vent to. Anna1212 08/04/2019. It took every ounce of my being not to walk out today. This really did a number on me mentally since I had to watch my mom deteriorate each day until she passed away. For sure!! I can't take care of my fish anymore. My friend’s child’s behaviour. But thanks for everyone’s thoughts it does help to know I’m not alone. Leave the door cracked so you can see your child making the mess, but talk away like nothing is happening. And since eliminating those distractions – the voices are my friends, don’t make fun – is virtually impossible, I’ll eliminate what I can. But he can’t. I am still in doubt if i even want kids……reading all these posts firmed me in my belief that I actually DON’T want kids. Many people struggle, especially with an unpredictable child. By Briana, 4 years ago on Tropical Fish. Hi Sam my name is Ella and i am COMPLETELY FED UP with quarentine. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. Support Forums > ... with the little one whom you care for and the child within yourself who would enjoy some creative time. Other parents may worry that they’ll be less able to provide adequate care as they age and develop disabilities of their own. That is exactly how I feel these days. They all three sit, content with the attention they probably were striving for anyway with their bad behavior, and listen quietly for as long as it takes. So make sure to check your policy if you are struggling to pay for your dog’s care. Remember that a dog is a commitment for 15 or more years. We plan on changing the lives of a few of them through adoption. The teachers make me feel like crap and they don’t even know how much it hurts. No judgment fro me either. I’m just done. They are great young men. My boyfriend hit me with the “it’s your Godly responsibility”. 15 comments. She loves to draw but that’s not reading. You have a strong burden to be both parents, in a sense, to the little child. My son needs a strong parent. People can suggest where to go for resources. This article helped definitely but my problem is having all these feelings ON TOP OF DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY! Single mom. I was a much happier person when they were gone. Just as you can’t control your child, he can’t control you either. Perhaps they return to the same misbehavior within 10 minutes of you handing out a consequence. I Think I Need to Quit. Parents try to impose sameness on their children because they can’t live on through their children if the children are different from them. Crap Living In This World School Friends Time School. Lost a lot of sympathy for OP when it came out she doesn't have/want credit cards. You can try to steer her in the right direction, and encourage her to seek support from a social service agency who can give her more resources and help her obtain child support if she isn't already. When the patience is gone and there is no end in sight to that frustrating phase? All I am is what they need me to be and thatisn’t enough. I worry too much about How others feel. Self-care is a crucial, yet often overlooked, component. I volunteer and give to the needy all the time. I’m new to mumsnet and this is my first thread. Got nothing done this weekend and I’ll have hell to pay for it this week. If she is a low income person there should be child care assistance in your state to help her pay for day care and/or after school care. I”m at my wit’s end. She thinks I just don't WANT to take care of mom, it's taken me three years to realize I'm not the best one to look out after my mother. I worked my ass off at 2 jobs and put myself through college with absolutely no outside help. I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. Thanks! Wish me luck. It breaks your heart to give up Fido, but you may not have a choice. It is just so hard sometimes. Response time almost always gets longer as kids get older, experts agree. Sometimes he gets violent. 515 515. We get to that point and we just want to sit down, bury our heads in our arms, curse the mother’s who never told us how frustrating it could be, and cry. The reason that you ate the food in front of you is because at some point, your mom taught you that if you did not, you would go hungry. He is the biggest nuisance EVER. I accidentally had a kid for someone who I thought wanted it because they said they wanted it then as soon as it was born they changed and acted like I wanted it. It can’t fight tooth and nail against itself for you to get a limited slice of rationed resources. 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